Aa big book 4th step inventory on relationships

Hear recovered addict and big book mucker, cameron f. Aas twelve step program is built on a foundation of spiritual. Relationships in big book alcoholics anonymous, 12 steps and. Nov 04, 20 4th step guide pages out of the big book awakening 12 step workbook book version august, 2006. Finally, just as 12step programs emphasize the importance of making a written inventory, so, too, it is important to write down these relationship inventories. The big book helped guide me through this process, and though i. To complete the fourth step the last manifestation of self we inventory is. Or were you afraid not to fight because of pressure from your father or.

The 4th step inventory is perhaps one of the most wellknown pieces of twelvestep programs. The fourth step of alcoholics anonymous is an excellent example of the apprehension that you can feel in trying to make a breakthrough in your sobriety. Though our decision was a vital and crucial step, it could have little permanent effect unless at once followed by a strenuous effort to face, and to be rid of, the things in ourselves which had been blocking us. For them, we hope these pages will prove so convincing that no further authentication will be necessary. We hope it will assist you in completing your personal inventory. Just the mere act of writing down the names of the people in my life was painful. Apr 27, 2020 alcoholic anonymous step five is often called confession. People father step mother step sisters step brothers step aunts uncles cousins clergy police lawyers judges doctors employers employees coworkers in. To be able to start on this step, the previous three steps must of. If you are using the fourth edition make sure you are on the correct page.

I am getting stuck on understanding my turnarounds, especially the selfseeking. Alcoholics anonymous is often referred to as a 12step program, and aa is the basis for many other 12step programs that have been established. Made a searching and fearless moral inventory big book. How many copies needed will depend on how many names the person has on their resentment. Breaking down step four of aa alcoholics anonymous jason. Our workbook companion to alcoholics anonymous 12 steps of recovery from alcoholism and addiction is called steps by the big book. Step four of aas twelve step program of recovery is infamously the scary one, probably because its a crucial step towards effective and lasting recovery. Step 4 big book step study step 4 turnarounds hi, im looking for replies from those who have done step 4 exactly as it is written in the big book. Whether we come through the doors of alcoholics anonymous or alanon family groups chances are we bring a lifetime of stinking thinking with us. We provide this study guide based on personal experience to help those following aas 12 steps as outlined in the original big book, alcoholics anonymous aa. Originally introduced in the big book of alcoholics anonymous, the fourth step states that we made a searching and fearless moral inventory of ourselves. Resentment inventory prompt sheet here is a list of people, institutions and principles that may be helpful in your resentment inventory. In the fourth step of aa, it states that you must make a searching and fearless moral inventory of yourself. The first time i did a 4th step in aa i hated everything about it.

Fourth step inventory general directions by anonymous members of alcoholics anonymous buy paper and pen and start writing. Though our decisionstep 3 was a vital and crucial step, it could have little permanent effect unless at once fast followed by a. Relationship in big book alcoholics anonymous, 12 steps and. Again, are they talking about just sex, or actual entire relationships.

Steps by the big book step 4 resentments steps by the. Steps by the big book step 4 resentments steps by the big. The aa cleveland district office has put together the following fourth step guide and was taken directly from the big book of alcoholics anonymous. This simply means taking an honest look at all of your good and bad character traits. My amends list big book pg 67 no we need more action, without which we find that faith without works is dead. When the word optional is used in the worksheets, it means that the big book suggests doing this.

Made a searching and fearless moral inventory of 2 step 4. A fourth study guides are distilled right out of the big book of alcoholics anonymous. Aa the original way 12 step guide aa the original way group. Read read about the relationship sex conduct inventory 7 paragraphs 68 70. To be able to start on this step, the previous three steps must of course have been. Many of us feel that we have two primary textbooks in aa, this one and of course the book titled alcoholicsanonymous, called by many the big book. Big book step study step 4 turnarounds soberrecovery. Mike on experience the big book aa meetings available online. Sorting and rendering passages in the proprietary format of the 164 and more concordance does not in any way imply affiliation with or endorsement by either alcoholics. Regardless of how we do it the main thing is to watch for fear, anger, dishonesty and selfishness f. Alcoholic anonymous step five is often called confession. At this stage of the inventory proceedings, our sponsors come to the rescue. When we met i read the big book and a looked into aa online.

Understanding step 4 of the 12 steps verywell mind. Select your sponsor, or a minister being sure it is one who understands the problem, not one who will moralize at you, or a doctor, or a closemouthed. Youre starting now to take step four so set up an appointment right away to take your fifth step. They look at initially our sex or romantic relationships but the. The aa big book says on eight different occasions that we write out this step. May 15, 2016 the fourth step, like the whole of recovery, is a process not an event. Fourth step inventory introduction to the 4th step. Not only is this essential when it comes time to move on to step five, but it can also serve as a reference point for seeing how the relationship changes over the months and years of. Aa speakers joe and charlie we agnostics the big book comes alive duration. The big book explains that we must make a list that includes all our resentments we have and have ever had, an account of sexual conduct and our fears. When the time was right for me, it seemed as if the pen in my hand had a direct connection to my mind, and the memories of a lifetime just poured out onto the page. This step follows a written inventory of our wrongs and it is critical to share this as soon as possible.

Relationship in big book alcoholics anonymous, 12 steps. First, list each of your intimate relationships, maybe all of your relationships. Step four of aas twelvestep program of recovery is infamously the scary one. The aa the original way 4th step inventory is an assets and liabilities type of 4th step. We provide this study guide based on personal experience to help those following aa s 12 steps as outlined in the original big book, alcoholics anonymous aa. The guide has a very good set of general directions for doing a 4th step. Jul 06, 2005 everything contained in the fourth step inventory worksheets is directly from the book alcoholics anonymous. Although the traditions inventory on the following pages could be used on its own, it is suggested that you use this inventory as part ofin combination with step four of the twelve steps. Home read the big book and twelve steps and twelve traditions alcoholics anonymous alcoholics anonymous this is the fourth edition of the big book, the basic text for alcoholics anonymous. The 164 and more book, ebook, and web site are all concordances which display passages from the big book alcoholics anonymous, the twelve steps and twelve traditions, and the a. Selfesteem, security, ambitions, pocket book, personal relationships. Step four of aas twelvestep program of recovery is infamously the scary one, probably because its a crucial step towards effective and lasting recovery.

All page numbers in this fourth step inventory workshop. Just follow the directions on this inventory out of the big book, youll discover what they. The first step of anything is a beginning, so the first step of the alcoholics anonymous 12 steps is the beginning of your recovery process. Aa speakers joe and charlie bills story the big book comes alive duration. These 4th step worksheets use the wording from alcoholics anonymous the big book pages 6371. Look at each relationship and answer these nine questions ref p. Relationships in big book alcoholics anonymous, 12 steps. To show other alcoholics precisely how we have recovered is the main purpose of this book. The 4th step in alcoholics anonymous asks members to make a searching and fearless moral inventory of ourselves. An unofficial guide to the twelve steps, edited by dr. Origins of moral inventory aa the original way group.

Its actually really exciting, because its the first day of a new life. The aa big book suggest that we take steps four and five immediately after step three. That is, this inventory cannot and should not be an oral inventory. Aas are often asked what is the difference between defects of character in step six and shortcomings in step seven. Since the overall philosophy of alcoholics anonymous is that alcoholism is just a symptom of a spiritual disease, the real problem is in character flaws that need. When you take inventory, you take notes or write down all that you have on hand. The big book of alcoholics anonymous specifically mentions the importance of putting the aspects of the 4th step down in pen and paper. I didnt even have to write anything else to feel bad. To view this printable aa step worksheet, click the orange button. Fourth step inventory these fourth step worksheets use the wording from alcoholics anonymous the big book pages 6371. Jennifer a on experience the big book aa meetings available online. This is the official website of the general service office g. Originally introduced in the big book of alcoholics anonymous, the fourth step. What this step really asks of the member is much deeper and thorough than anyone may realize at the outset, but with a little diligence and support from a.

These step study guides and worksheets have been used by thousands of aa s, nas, alanons, oa overeaters, cas, gas and other 12 step recovery program members that use the 12 steps as instructed in the book, alcoholics. Personal relations is my deep seated idea of what this type of relationship. All page numbers in this fourth step inventory workshop, refer to the third edition of the book alcoholics anonymous. Step 4 how it works relationships including sex 6465 sex conduct. These 12 steps are outlined in chapter 5, how it works, of the big book. The 10 th step becomes our workhorse step all throughout the day. I listed my resentments on paper, but not necessarily in chronological order. Fourth step inventory introduction to the 4th step inventory. Not long after he moved in i found his 4th step inventory and read it, this. The following is a suggested format for a big book step study meeting with emphasis on the fourth step. My partner has been sober for almost 8 years and in a relationship with me for 2 12. See inventory guide sheet on the next page to use as a guide while writing. Step 4 big book alcoholics anonymous chapter 5, pp 63. Fourth step inventory introduction to the 4th step inventory workshop.

Skip this instruction if column one is not a person. When you are first confronted with the concept of writing down your faults and past. Doing the 12 steps is also referred to as working the steps, because it requires. They comfort the melancholy one by fi rst showing him that his. Aa speakers joe and charlie working the 4th step the big book comes alive duration. Breaking down step one of aa alcoholics anonymous jason. To take inventory in this respect we ought to consider carefully all personal relationships which bring continuous or recurring trouble.

Relationships and sex in the fellowship workshop duration. There is a saying in the 12step programs that recovery is a process, not an event. The 4th step inventory is perhaps one of the most wellknown pieces of. Made a searching and fearless moral inventory of ourselves. Mike presents a big book study podcast and thoughts on recovery. Please print 2 sides on one sheet of paper sheet 1 side. Quotations from alcoholics anonymous and the twelve steps and twelve traditions are with permission of a.

Nov 20, 2019 there is a saying in the 12 step programs that recovery is a process, not an event. The worksheets were created by using the precise instructions in the big book to make taking the fourth step as easy and simple as possible. This request is not an arbitrary one but has been proven to be essential in establishing a sound foundation for recovery. Were you undependable as a friend, breaking off relationships without any explanation when someone or something better seemed to come along. Mar 03, 2015 aa speakers joe and charlie working the 4th step the big book comes alive duration.

I always ask what about the 3rd step decision to begin a new relationship with god. When the word optional is used in the worksheets, it means that the big book suggests doing this but does not suggest writing anything down. First, list each of your intimate relationships, maybe all of your relationships with others, including god. This post was originally published on aa beyond belief. Download pamphlets and handouts to use in big book group sessions our workbook companion to alcoholics anonymous 12 steps of recovery from alcoholism and addiction is called steps by the big book. Breaking down step four of aa alcoholics anonymous made a searching and fearless moral inventory of ourselves.

Bob d and polly p session 7 step 4, fear and sex inventory duration. We, of alcoholics anonymous, are more than one hundred men and women who have recovered from a seemingly hopeless state of mind and body. This 4th step consists essentially of one page that is duplicated as needed. Aug 22, 2007 finally, just as 12 step programs emphasize the importance of making a written inventory, so, too, it is important to write down these relationship inventories.

God please help me see the truth about my conduct in relationships. I have to write down all of my negative character traits. Made a searching and fearless moral inventory of ourselves reading. Videos or graphic images may not be downloaded, copied or duplicated without the express written permission of alcoholics anonymous world services, inc. Column 4 the inventory was ours, not the other mans. If we have been thorough about our personal inventory, we have written. In this step we admit to god, to ourselves, and to another human being the exact nature of our wrong. How have i done the things ive resented in column 2 to the person ive listed in. This does not imply either approval of or endorsement by this organization which, i understand, feels alcoholics. Its the writing it down that helps trigger the release. Fourth column instructions 1 read the big book from p.